Toxic work environments


This post is about standing up for yourself.  I am a woman so if I say something I am automatically assumed to be a bitch if I do not agree or if I am not complacent.  I worked with someone who made me lose my shit.  Legit, I was going to quit because the toxic energy she emitted as well as all of the lies and bullshit.

This person was inferior to me in regards to position; I would give directions and explain how things are to be done and it was just blatant disregard for what I said.  I am going to give facts-not any of how I felt about her.  She would lie to my face and she treat the children differently.  She seemed unwilling to learn (and I say unwilling because she just did not agree with my teaching style so she would not do it; maybe under someone elses direction she would have been more open).  She told my principal that I was abusing the children in my care-a downright lie and something like this could really ruin the career I worked so hard for.

The whole reason I am posting this is so that whoever is reading this, knows that they need to speak up when something is wrong.  I tried to my best to work with this individual but I found it hard and so I spoke up and went to my boss so that I could rephrase what I was saying-maybe it was me and she was not understanding what I was saying.  That being said, accusations were made against me and I had to deal with that.

DO NOT STAY IN AN UNHEALTHY WORK ENVIRONMENT.  Your mental health is so much more important than a job.  I was going to work unhappy and I could not stand being there-and it was not the kids! Luckily it worked out for me in the end and I am happier now but please PLEASE do not stay somewhere that makes your life unhealthy and lose sleep.

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